People come to Success Design International because they want help in relating to others and communicating more effectively in some aspect of their life. What most don’t initially understand is that the primary person we have a relationship with is ourself. And it’s in this relationship with ourself that many of our challenges occur.

Consider this: How do you talk to yourself? How do you think about who you are, what you are doing or what goals you want to achieve?

Take a look at the first group of phrases below, and honestly ask yourself if you have ever said any of them to yourself, and if so how often?

    “I can’t seem to stay with an exercise program (or diet).”
    “I never know what to say.”
    “It’s never going to work for me.”
    “People are always taking advantage of me.”
    “I don’t know what to do.”
    “I don’t know what I want.”
    “I am not good enough.”
    “I’m so stupid.”
    “I just don’t fit in.”
    “I don’t belong.”
    “We just keep fighting and can’t seem to agree on anything.”

In the long run, it’s not detrimental to say one of these phrases to yourself once or twice, but what if you say one or more of them to yourself constantly? What if you’ve said them to yourself for so long you can’t even hear yourself saying them to yourself and now you just think that they are a fact?

Now take a look a the next group of phrases. Ask yourself if you’ve ever said any of these to yourself about work or a project you want to complete.

    “There is not enough time to get it all done.”
    “I am always procrastinating.”
    “I am constantly feeling overwhelmed.”
    “I just can’t get organized.”
    “I am stuck in a dead-end position.”
    “No one appreciates what I do.”
    “My team never follows my directions.”
    “I know what I should do, and I can’t get myself to do it.”
    “I feel like I am invisible.”
    “No one notices me.”
    “I don’t have any motivation toward success.”

Again, it’s not as detrimental to say these to yourself once or twice, but if you’ve said then ten, or twenty, or a hundred times to yourself, those thoughts have begun to shape your world and your experience in it.

Success Design International helps people clear any clutter in their brain and update any limiting beliefs they may have about who they are, how they fit into the world, and what’s possible for them. Once people authentically align their values, principles, and beliefs with be who they truly are, then they can be open to learning new communication skills for creating dynamic, balanced and healthy relationships in all aspects of life.

Al and Marilyn Sargent have developed the field of study called Cognitive-Emotional Re-Alignment with Hemispheric Integration™. These skills help people get “un-stuck” and move toward fulfilling their dreams, wants, and needs.